Filling Big Shoes

In every aspect of my life, my objective is to be a little better than the day before.

Except when it comes to motherhood. This is one area where I apply a different yardstick – my own mom.

My mom is the most caring and selfless mom ever to walk the earth. There is nothing she wouldn’t do for her children. She would give the shirt off her back on a 10 degree day and walk around shirtless if it meant her child having an extra layer of clothing beneath a winter coat.

When it comes to motherhood, I would be satisfied if I one day amounted to half of the mom and just one quarter of the person that she is. And every day I strive to get one step closer to this lofty goal.

This morning my 10 year old daughter attempted to go to school in sneakers which were drenched from yesterday’s thunder showers. While driving her to school, without hesitation, I gave her the shoes off my feet. Surprisingly, they were a perfect fit.

As I drove back home, barefoot, it struck me that at 40-something I am still trying to fill my mom’s shoes, while my daughter, at just 10, has already filled mine.

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The Destination of the Kicked Can

A recent blog post addressed why so often one’s words contradict one’s actions.

It reasoned that since most people don’t think that they’ll ever be held accountable for the words which oppose their actions, there is little incentive to remain honest.

However, not all liars are that confident.

Some realize that culpability is an eventuality – someday.

To them, as long as someday is in a land far, far, far away, there is no immediate pressure to correlate today’s words with actions.

Instead, they play a dicey game of kick can of lies down the road – hoping that maybe, just maybe, time can turn the inevitable into the escapable.

Until the day that they run out of road.

That is the day they learn that the long and winding road doesn’t lead to your door. It leads to the truth.

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When Heeding Advice Consider the Source

Some people get off on telling other people what to do.

They are constantly giving advice – whether they are knowledgeable on the subject or not.

They just can’t help themselves.

They are so desperate to be heard that when they exhaust live listeners, they resort to sharing their 2 cents on social media.

Although their 2 cents isn’t even worth a penny, unsuspecting virtual strangers may not know any better.

Before heeding advice, scrutinize the source.

Make sure you are not taking medical advice from someone who has lost his medical license, legal advice from a criminal, or investment advice from someone who picks stocks by throwing darts – regardless of whether dart throwers have been known to outperform some analysts.

No enemy is worse than bad advice. Enemies may aggravate, but bad advice can annihilate.

But, seriously, don’t take my word for it.

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When Actions Contradict Words

I came across this quote the other day:

Your words mean nothing when your actions are the complete opposite.

It made me think about all of the words rendered meaningless by contradictory actions.

I started questioning why so many people don’t feel any sense of duty to coordinate their words with their actions.

Then the answer came to me.

It is because they don’t believe that they’ll ever be held accountable for the words which oppose their actions.

It is not hard to understand why people would feel this way. I mean, look around.

The punishment for a politician whose words counter his actions is another term in office.

The penalty for a salesman whose words conflict with his actions is a commission.

The sentence for a litigant whose words to the court are controverted by evidence seems to be more chances.

Words deemed hollow by opposing deeds are not simply meaningless, they are lies.

We need to call them what they are.

For, if they are never properly labeled, there will never be answerability.

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Adult Bullying is Alive and Well

Most people think that bullying ends long after we’ve ran off the playground and tossed our graduations caps in the air.


Some (and by some, I mean bullies) would be happy to know that adult bullying is alive and well.

Bullying runs rampant in our politics, our corporations and in our courts. Only as opposed throwing sand, adult bullies toss threats. And instead of taking our milk money, adult bullies try to steal our livelihood.

But, much like child bullies, adult bullies cower when you fight back – just like in the movies.

While bullies of all ages can dish it out, there are no bullies who can actually take it.

So whether you are ten years old or fifty – never, ever, ever, ever, ever give in to the bully.

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The Moxie

My love affair with words is no secret.

It is one of the reasons why I subscribe to Dictionary Dot Com’s “word of the day”.

Other reasons include my never-ending quest for inspiration, and the need to brush up on my vocabulary – in case I ever decide to retake my SATs.

While raising a family, building (rebuilding) a company, writing a book, daily blogging, learning the law and pursuing justice keeps me fairly busy, I may just squeeze in a few hours to see if I can beat my 1986 SAT score.

Who knows.

Anyway, I awoke this morning feeling uninspired and unsure of a topic for a blog post.

That is until I received notification that today’s “word of the day” arrived:

Moxie is defined as courage, nerve and determination – the quintessential traits of a Stoic.

It was a reminder of why these “daily rantings of a Stoic” have become so important to me. What began as a whim on new year’s day, has since become a mission. And, who knows, perhaps one day I’ll transform this new year’s resolution into a brand. Creating brands is another passion of mine.

Since I am obligated to use the word of day in a sentence, here goes:

“In case anyone tries to pilfer my Stoic brand (it happens way more than you’d ever expect), I’m prepared to rebrand as the Moxie.”

Ahhh, the rebrand. Now that’s a post for another day.

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I Was Born During the Day – Just Not YESTERDAY

I was born during the day. It just wasn’t yesterday.

I feel like I need to clarify this point as it seems as though some are hell-bent on treating me like I was born yesterday – as if I have the word, “naivety” tattooed on my forehead.

Warmth is not synonymous with vulnerability.

It would be amiss to mistake kindness for weakness, for one can crush with the very same hands once used to give.

It would also be imprudent to confuse a trusting soul with a foolish one. Even the most trusting of souls can be deceived only so many times.

It’s like that old saying that goes:

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me thrice and it will be the last time anyone is fooled by you again.

Or something to that effect.

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How Can You Tell When a Liar is Lying?

There’s an old joke that goes something like this:

“How can you tell when a liar is lying?”

“Easy. His lawyer’s lips are moving.”

Or maybe it’s…

“How can you tell when a liar is lying?”

“Easy. His lawyer’s nose is growing.”

No, that’s not it either. I am having trouble remembering the punchline. Probably because it isn’t very funny.

On the contrary, it is really quite sad.

It is so disheartening how corrupt society has become.

Today, duplicity is so rampant throughout our Government, our corporations and our media, that it has become the norm when it should be the exception.

It doesn’t even faze us anymore.

And many lawmakers and lawyers perpetuate this culture of corruption by creating loopholes in laws or clauses in contracts that grant licenses to cheat, lie and steal without consequences.

Worse, they are rewarded for their efforts in legalizing corruption and keeping justice far out of reach.

That is their devious plan – to ensure that laws are too difficult to comprehend and that justice is too cumbersome and expensive for most to pursue.

But they have miscalculated. They are not unbeatable. They can be defeated by anyone with perseverance, internet access, a hunger for knowledge and a quest for truth.

It’s time for accountability to be had and for honesty to prevail.

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